Romance Scam Survivor: the whole sordid story

Romance Scam Survivor: the whole sordid story

You might think it can’t happen to you, but can you be sure?

Jan believed she was ‘in love’. She accepted a proposal of marriage, and then sent money - ALL her money - to a professional scammer.
She courageously shares the details of her devastating experience, in order to help others to recognise such devious swindlers who prey on trusting souls.
Jan is one of the rare few survivors of a romance scam who has the courage to speak up, and she does - loudly, eloquently and frequently in her latest book Romance Scam Survivor: the whole sordid story!

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About the Book

“How could you give money to someone you’ve never met?”

That’s the first question most people ask.

In just a few months, Jan believed she was ‘in love’. She accepted a proposal of marriage, and then sent money – ALL her money – to a professional scammer.

How did it happen? How can an intelligent person be so thoroughly scammed?

Jan courageously shares the details of her devastating experience, in order to help others recognise such devious swindlers who prey on trusting souls, and maybe even to catch this thief.

You might think it can’t happen to you, or someone you love, but can you be sure?

The work is a non-fiction account and memoir covering the communication between herself and the scammer, based on her records of their communications. By sharing the personal and intimate nature of the interactions it asks the reader to put themselves in her shoes, and in response, the question “how could you be so stupid?” is answered.  It details the process of dealing emotionally with the scam and the financial difficulties that she found herself in afterwards. It is a story of her process through being a victim to becoming a survivor. Areas that need change are also addressed. Some support resources and links are also provided, though this is not the main purpose.

“Jan Marshall is a vital voice in the discourse on romance fraud.”  

Dr Cassandra CrossCyber Frauds, Scams and their Victims.

I applaud and respect your honesty – it must have been extraordinarily challenging to relive the experience, and I salute you for it. It’s a high emotional impact book.

Celia Taylor

I began reading Romance Scam Survivor: the whole sordid story and have been compelled to continue. My heart is breaking for you as I am amazed by your strength.
This is more than a memoir. It has great honesty and openness and contains much useful research and advice.

A friend and editor

Details
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Genre: Memoir
Publisher: Sangam Enterprises Pty Ltd
Publication Year: 2018
Format: Paperback and eBook
Length: 300+pages
ASIN: 064823360X
ISBN: 9780648233602
Endorsements
★★★★ "Romance Scam Survivor, written by Jan Marshall, is the story of how Jan herself came to be the victim of an online scam. Jan, a woman in her fifties, moves back to her childhood home in Melbourne. Having originally left to pursue her career, Jan lived independently for a long time, but coming back to Melbourne she had realized she wanted to feel loved. This leads her to look for a match on an online dating website. Not long after creating her profile, a man going by the name of Eamon, from Canada, messages her and they decide to stay connected. They go on to exchange emails, instant messages and eventually call each other; with each step their relationship grows stronger. Jan, filled with hope for a future with a man she has never met, fails to see the numerous red flags along the way. Jan recounts her story using many of the emails and instant messages she collected throughout the exchange. This is a unique approach to the topic, as in doing this, she shows how the scam affected her emotionally at each stage of the journey. By looking back on her conversations with Eamon she comments, with hindsight, the worrying signs of a scam and pin-points exactly how she got reeled in. As the relationship grew stronger Jan’s friends and family tried to warn her against Eamon. They tried to tell her that Eamon was becoming obsessive, a trait common in scammers. The reader holds a similar outsider perspective as the friends do in the book, watching as Eamon tries to increase the contact to numerous times a day and persistently asking for personal details. The reader thus feels the same compulsion as Jan’s friends and family to point out the ‘red flags’ of the relationship. Eamon continuously plays on Jan’s hopes, fantasies and fears. She wants to settle down with a man, so Eamon fills that role for her, talking about potentially moving to Melbourne with her. This makes the relationship all the more real to Jan thus getting her hopes up. Jan’s fear of being alone and unworthy of love also add to her denial of Eamon being anything sinister, even when he change’s topic swiftly to her assets and work history. As the reader, it is hard to watch the scam unfold and seeing how vulnerable Jan was. The most striking part of this book however, is Part Two, where Jan discusses her recovery. She explains the first days and weeks in detail, exploring her relationships with the people around her. Explaining their reactions, how they questioned her decisions. But most importantly her own thoughts; how she grappled with how easily she had been manipulated and why she ignored the signs. This book gives a victim’s perspective of how a scam impacts one’s life and with hindsight gives a deeply critical investigation into how they can be manipulated. In an age where dating sites and apps are becoming common, this book could help people who have been in a similar situations, those who are potentially going through it, or potentially instill caution in those that don’t know the signs to lookout for." LITERARY TITAN Pages: 339 | ASIN: B078KS9Q2M
★★★★★ "I liked “Romance Scam Survivor: the whole sordid story” by Jan Marshall which I felt was a very bold account of her dealings with a scammer. Women can learn from her book. It’s well written, fast moving and very interesting about the people in this world who put on a good show with nothing behind it but deceit. I admire the author for writing this book."
I found the excerpt enticing and I will be buying the book. I used to be one of those who thought I could never be fooled by a romance scam. I commend Jan Marshall for being bold enough to tell the story. Jonathan Farley, D.Phil. (University of Oxford), A.B. summa cum laude (Harvard University)
– Jonathan Farley
I read  your  book  in  (almost)  a  single  sitting…….had  to go  to  work  in  midst  of  it. AMAZING! Your honesty, vulnerability, determination and persistence are extraordinary. I think you are astonishing making such a leap forward from this truly awful challenging event. I found it riveting from the start, I’m sure I won’t be the only one.
– Rosie
I’ve also just finished Jan’s book. Amazing and so powerful, I echo all of Rosie’s words. For me it also helped to hear more of the details that you couldn’t share with us at the time. I was feeling such sadness and anger as well as feeling so much admiration and power as you emerged as Survivor. I knew that we were doing our best to support you at the time yet we had no way of knowing what it was really like for you. Reading about the work we all did together on that post-legal letter to the ATO and how this was part of your recovery process was deeply touching. And the amount of research you did- wow! This book is a great contribution and over time it’s clear that the system has started to catch up. All the Media work you did is also a big part of this shift and I hope through publishing this book you will be even more widely acknowledged.
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